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A simple tip to balance your mind is to take a few minutes in your mind’s eye, to mentally scan your body and pay attention to it’s symmetry and balance. The two are connected.

Are you sitting/standing as straight as you can?

Notice how it feels to tilt your centre of gravity into the mid pelvic region. And straighten up your spine.

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“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Albert Einstein


It is easy to remind ourselves why and how we are connected to certain people, whether friends, family, colleagues or even strangers. Often this is because we have shared trials, tribulations, celebrations and times of endurance.

But do you ever just meet someone and ‘know’ them? How often have you felt that (sometimes misinterpreted) instant attraction?

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PEAS or Qs?

Have you ever wanted to sound a little more authoritative yet remain polite? Saying ‘sit down please’ when you really want to instruct the person to ‘just sit down’, maybe even through gritted teeth knowing the response you wished for was unlikely?

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Have you ever found yourself getting irritated with someone? Perhaps even saying ‘you really annoy me’ or similar? Then feelings and words escalate into friction, or worse?

Wouldn’t it be great to take a different perspective and maybe say something less inflammatory like “I am feeling annoyed by your loud voice, which is a shame because I’m always really impressed when I hear your calm tone.”

Can you imagine how using this skill might diffuse a difficult situation?

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words AND music

Just watched an early episode of Friends, very funny – where they all get locked out of the girls’ flat and argue in the hallway:

“You said YOU had the key”

“No I said ‘got the key’ (inflection up as in a question ‘got the key?’)”

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Little Devil in the Classroom

What a devil of a job I had a few years ago, dealing with a young lad who thought he was a “bad kid”.

Adrian was one of the first kids in class 5 to catch my attention. He displayed unruly behaviour, shouting out and generally disagreeing with everyone, and anything. Physically he was loose toned and head down off to his left shoulder. His physiology was one of poor control yet quite tense. Verbally he was quick and articulate for his age though his vocabulary was negative and reactive. Emotionally he seemed upset defensive/offensive and unable to deal with unfairness. Energetically he seemed to be hurting.

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Why Worry?

Old Irish philosophy:

There are only two things to worry about – are you sick or are you well?

If you’re well, there’s nothing to worry about.

And if you’re sick, there are only two things to worry about – will you live or will you die?

If you live, there’s nothing to worry about.

And if you die, there are only two things to worry about – will you go to heaven or will you go to hell?

If you go to heaven, there’s nothing to worry about.

And if you go to hell, you’ll be so busy shaking hands with all your friends that there’s nothing to worry about.