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Undo Thinking Traps

Thinking Traps – perceptions that make us unhappy

 

We each perceive the world differently and our perception can cause unnecessary stress. Changing our perceptions is a great tool for strengthening personal resilience.

 

  • Make a list of 3 things that when you see them you feel sad or angry.
  • Make a list of 3 things that when you hear them you feel sad or angry.
  • To each sentence, now describe ‘what you think it means’

 

E.G. I see her frown/hear him whisper and I feel sad because I think it means s/he doesn’t like me any more.

 

3 things I see that make me feel sad or angry:

 

1.

Because I think it means …

 

2.

Because I think it means …

 

3.

Because I think it means …

 

 

3 things I hear that make me feel sad or angry:

 

1.

Because I think it means …

 

2.

Because I think it means …

 

3.

Because I think it means …

 

Now ask yourself the following questions to EACH of the sentences above:

  1. What else could it mean?
  2. What’s the worst it could mean?
  3. What’s the best it could mean?
  4. What’s the most likely it could mean?
  5. What would someone else think it means?

 

Once you have ‘expanded’ your thinking to consider other meanings, you have begun to undo the thinking traps that can cause a stress response. You can ask other people these questions too and help them to feel more resilient.

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When you let people discover their own expanded thinking, they find their own answers, more possibility, and more freedom of thinking choice.