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NLP First Aid

As first ‘mum’ into the emergency room following a car crash involving my son and his two mates, I was fortunately able to quickly know that (despite blood and bruising) my son was going to be OK. However it was also apparent that one of the other boys (Chris) was in quite a bad way.
 
Eventually, Chris was left alone for a few moments, stabilised, in a semi conscious state.  At that time, his relatives were still unaware of his situation, and I asked permission to go into his cubicle with the intention of retrieving his mobile phone to call his family. Chris was clearly scared and distressed, trying desperately to make sense of the situations and things he had heard, felt and seen regarding his injuries.
Chris had long been a regular guest in our home and I knew him well and I quickly had to realise my immediate choices:
1. I could stay focused on the task of retrieving the phone and leave him to his mind’s distortions of what was happening to him and what he had overheard the medics discussing.
2. I could become emotionally involved in my own drama of the experience. 
3. I could dissociate enough to utilise the NLP & NHR skill set that I know can bring about instant and amazing results.
I chose the latter.
 
As is so often the way when we operate through unconscious competence within the other person’s map of the world, it’s hard to recall specifics, but I can share some key NLP first aid points that noticeably improved Chris’s state:
 
Neuro – generating my own strong internal state of calm, confident energy re-assured his unconscious mind, as did pacing and leading his breathing.
Linguistic –  utilising Milton Model language patterns to inoculate against and temporally shift his rising panic, whist stacking presuppositions of his recovery (when you/as you/because/the first thing …). 
Programming – quickly ascertaining how he was stressing himself in order to swiftly interrupt those patterns, re-frame his panic and re-direct his attention.
 
The truth is that within a few minutes, his essential monitor readings, at least the ones I could track, such as oxygen level, heart rate and blood pressure, (luckily I had previously worked in health assessment) improved significantly.  Enough for me to return to the task in hand; ringing his parents. 
 
Shortly after that, I overheard a medic asking an old lady (also involved in the accident) in the adjacent cubicle ‘how is your pain?
Just stop and think about that for a moment – her attention was being directed to how much pain she was experiencing. And notice the presupposition (powerful hypnotic language) that the pain belonged to her.  
Words are powerful and the way that these subtly different words land on your neurology, shifts your experience. It is not rocket science and, for example, if you say ‘this’ pain or ‘that’ pain, which feels more real and close up? Consider the differing impacts of these commonly heard questions: 
* “How is ‘this’ pain?”
* “How is ‘that’ pain?”
* “How is ‘the’ pain?”
* “how is ‘your’ pain?”
There are many reasons that I am grateful to have learned the discipline and art of the Bandler Technologies, and this real life story illustrates yet another. All boys were released from hospital within a week and made full recoveries.
 
This actually happened several years ago and I have previously written about it. Yet it seems particularly relevant in this world of uncertainty, where we see and hear of terrible emergency situations beyond that which might be deemed an accident.
What are your NLP skills? Could they improve? Have you considered the contents of your own personal NLP First Aid Kit? It’s something I teach and believe to be an essential core skill.
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