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Bullies, Bullied, Bullying

What is Bullying?

I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition. 

The mum removed the post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying

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Thinking

Too many thoughts or too little attention?

It is said that we think an average of 70,000 thoughts a day, and most of them are simply habitual. 

Thoughts are the electro-chemical brain signals that make your brain:

* efficient – you don’t have to think about thinking.

* effective – you can select the most useful thoughts available to support your next move. 

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Copying Smartness

Discover how (rescue dog) Molly learned important skills by copying her new brother. Molly teaches us smart ways to improve in areas we are not yet good at. Great advice for 7 – 14 year olds who worry about being not good enough at something in particular.

Needing To Think

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She needed chocolate

He needed cake

They needed to think

Because bodies can overload.

 

She needed to smoke

He needed to drink

They needed to think

Because toxins harm cellular health, causing bodies to overload.

 

He needed to shout

She needed to punch

They needed to think

Because lasting anger creates fear, which is toxic to mental health, causing minds and bodies to overload.

 

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What is Bullying?

unrealised potential

I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition.

The mum removed said post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying.

 

What happens inside your mind when you hear the word ‘bullied’. What assumptions do you make and what is your default emotional reaction?

 

I think the word ‘bully’ is a powerful metaphor Read more…

What Can’t You Do?

How do you expand your child’s capacity for a ‘can do’ attitude?

Why is this important? Because when your child or teen says “I can’t…(eat that/do that/learn that)” it prevents them exploring what they can do.

Hearing someone declare a limitation ahead of real time capability-testing can be frustrating because it’s a sloppy recall of a failure-memory rather than imagineering-success. If you believe their ‘can’t’ you accept their limitation. Yet trying to persuade them that they ‘can’ do it (they ARE capable after all) so often engages a battle that sends them into the justification corner.

Helping children and young people experience more in life, not less, means they get to expand their mental map of what they can do with their brain.

This example from our Happy Brain programme, coaches a 10 year old child through an experience of high value to them. Gaming is the child’s value.  We’ll call the child Joseph.

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Lonely Lana Changes Her Mind

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

14 year old Lana was fed up of feeling left out of a group of girls at her new school.

Moving schools can be tough at any age and Lana, one term in, was yearning for the feelings she used to associate with her old group of pals.

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