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Thinking

Too many thoughts or too little attention?

It is said that we think an average of 70,000 thoughts a day, and most of them are simply habitual. 

Thoughts are the electro-chemical brain signals that make your brain:

* efficient – you don’t have to think about thinking.

* effective – you can select the most useful thoughts available to support your next move. 

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Percy Manages Metaphor

Percy explained that he had been getting angry with people at work.

As manager of a team, he needed his people to follow instruction and deliver results. The trigger to his getting angry was people not doing what he had asked of them which led to increasing frustration, which then led to anger. Underpinning his anger was something of high value to him – feeling understood.

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Marketing Unconsciously

Have you ever been shopping and found your eyes fixating on bargain signs? Those uniformly simple and brightly coloured images that trick us into thinking we can save money. Over time, how many things have you bought on impulse?

 

Not everyone succumbs to that automated behavioural response of course, but if you owned a retail store you’d be very keen to understand consumer behaviours wouldn’t you?

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Is the playground any different to the workplace?

NLP Coaching For Resilience – with Mia who has been experiencing a situation with a girl we will call ‘B’ who clearly doesn’t like Mia.

B has been spreading unkind and untrue rumours amongst Mia’s friends, saying that Mia has been bitching about each of them behind their backs. B is trying to divide the friendship group and Mia feels her only option is to convince each friend that the rumours are not true. She is exhausted and worried that she will lose her friends.

The situation has brought back memories of a bullying experience we had worked through 12 months earlier (different environment, different girl). She is feeling stuck and un-resourceful.

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Switch Positive

Help yourself and help others to feel good on purpose.

 

Direct your mind to 3 things that you like about yourself.

3 things that you like about yourself:

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3.

 

Direct your mind to 3 things you like about your family / home / work / class.

3 things you like about your family / home / work / class:

1.

2.

3.

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Undo Thinking Traps

Thinking Traps – perceptions that make us unhappy

 

We each perceive the world differently and our perception can cause unnecessary stress. Changing our perceptions is a great tool for strengthening personal resilience.

 

  • Make a list of 3 things that when you see them you feel sad or angry.
  • Make a list of 3 things that when you hear them you feel sad or angry.
  • To each sentence, now describe ‘what you think it means’

 

E.G. I see her frown/hear him whisper and I feel sad because I think it means s/he doesn’t like me any more.

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