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Mind-Body Balance


The mind-body connection is no secret and Working Well means taking time to check your ‘balance’ of thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Inside your brain, a ‘top-down’ cognitive approach to working well is generally understood: the quality of your thoughts affect the quality of your feelings, which in turn drives what you do/don’t do. 

What is often overlooked however, is the brain’s ‘bottom-up’ approach to working well: the adjustment of your physiology/neurology affects the resilience of your feelings, which in turn drives clarity of thinking. 
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In this short video clip I talk about this mind-body connection. Here, as I guide you through a simple physiological re-balance practice, is one simple skill that can re-set your working day.

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Thinking

Too many thoughts or too little attention?

It is said that we think an average of 70,000 thoughts a day, and most of them are simply habitual. 

Thoughts are the electro-chemical brain signals that make your brain:

* efficient – you don’t have to think about thinking.

* effective – you can select the most useful thoughts available to support your next move. 

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What is Bullying?

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I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition.

The mum removed said post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying.

 

What happens inside your mind when you hear the word ‘bullied’. What assumptions do you make and what is your default emotional reaction?

 

I think the word ‘bully’ is a powerful metaphor Read more…

What Can’t You Do?

How do you expand your child’s capacity for a ‘can do’ attitude?

Why is this important? Because when your child or teen says “I can’t…(eat that/do that/learn that)” it prevents them exploring what they can do.

Hearing someone declare a limitation ahead of real time capability-testing can be frustrating because it’s a sloppy recall of a failure-memory rather than imagineering-success. If you believe their ‘can’t’ you accept their limitation. Yet trying to persuade them that they ‘can’ do it (they ARE capable after all) so often engages a battle that sends them into the justification corner.

Helping children and young people experience more in life, not less, means they get to expand their mental map of what they can do with their brain.

This example from our Happy Brain programme, coaches a 10 year old child through an experience of high value to them. Gaming is the child’s value.  We’ll call the child Joseph.

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Percy Manages Metaphor

Percy explained that he had been getting angry with people at work.

As manager of a team, he needed his people to follow instruction and deliver results. The trigger to his getting angry was people not doing what he had asked of them which led to increasing frustration, which then led to anger. Underpinning his anger was something of high value to him – feeling understood.

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More Simple Motivation

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

When you feel you have choice you are more likely to feel motivated.

Let’s look at what happens when you focus on long-term goals and feeling good when planning (e.g. being a strong, healthy sportsperson, or having many study choices at university) keeps your motivation steady, which enables you to take feedback from the past performances to feed forward and make adjustments for the next time. We call this continual improvement.

 

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