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Bullies, Bullied, Bullying

What is Bullying?

I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition. 

The mum removed the post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying

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Copying Smartness

Discover how (rescue dog) Molly learned important skills by copying her new brother. Molly teaches us smart ways to improve in areas we are not yet good at. Great advice for 7 – 14 year olds who worry about being not good enough at something in particular.

Needing To Think

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She needed chocolate

He needed cake

They needed to think

Because bodies can overload.

 

She needed to smoke

He needed to drink

They needed to think

Because toxins harm cellular health, causing bodies to overload.

 

He needed to shout

She needed to punch

They needed to think

Because lasting anger creates fear, which is toxic to mental health, causing minds and bodies to overload.

 

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What is Bullying?

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I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition.

The mum removed said post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying.

 

What happens inside your mind when you hear the word ‘bullied’. What assumptions do you make and what is your default emotional reaction?

 

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Percy Manages Metaphor

Percy explained that he had been getting angry with people at work.

As manager of a team, he needed his people to follow instruction and deliver results. The trigger to his getting angry was people not doing what he had asked of them which led to increasing frustration, which then led to anger. Underpinning his anger was something of high value to him – feeling understood.

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Lonely Lana Changes Her Mind

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

14 year old Lana was fed up of feeling left out of a group of girls at her new school.

Moving schools can be tough at any age and Lana, one term in, was yearning for the feelings she used to associate with her old group of pals.

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More Simple Motivation

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

When you feel you have choice you are more likely to feel motivated.

Let’s look at what happens when you focus on long-term goals and feeling good when planning (e.g. being a strong, healthy sportsperson, or having many study choices at university) keeps your motivation steady, which enables you to take feedback from the past performances to feed forward and make adjustments for the next time. We call this continual improvement.

 

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