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Copying Smartness

Discover how (rescue dog) Molly learned important skills by copying her new brother. Molly teaches us smart ways to improve in areas we are not yet good at. Great advice for 7 – 14 year olds who worry about being not good enough at something in particular.

What is Bullying?

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I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition.

The mum removed said post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying.

 

What happens inside your mind when you hear the word ‘bullied’. What assumptions do you make and what is your default emotional reaction?

 

I think the word ‘bully’ is a powerful metaphor Read more…

What Can’t You Do?

How do you expand your child’s capacity for a ‘can do’ attitude?

Why is this important? Because when your child or teen says “I can’t…(eat that/do that/learn that)” it prevents them exploring what they can do.

Hearing someone declare a limitation ahead of real time capability-testing can be frustrating because it’s a sloppy recall of a failure-memory rather than imagineering-success. If you believe their ‘can’t’ you accept their limitation. Yet trying to persuade them that they ‘can’ do it (they ARE capable after all) so often engages a battle that sends them into the justification corner.

Helping children and young people experience more in life, not less, means they get to expand their mental map of what they can do with their brain.

This example from our Happy Brain programme, coaches a 10 year old child through an experience of high value to them. Gaming is the child’s value.  We’ll call the child Joseph.

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More Simple Motivation

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

When you feel you have choice you are more likely to feel motivated.

Let’s look at what happens when you focus on long-term goals and feeling good when planning (e.g. being a strong, healthy sportsperson, or having many study choices at university) keeps your motivation steady, which enables you to take feedback from the past performances to feed forward and make adjustments for the next time. We call this continual improvement.

 

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Teaching Excellence

I’m beyond excited to announce the launch of an outstanding book Teaching Excellence – the definitive guide to NLP for teaching and learning.

Not only is it packed with the wisdom and experience of its author Kate Benson (International Director of Education for the Society of NLP) and the co-founder of NLP Dr Richard Bandler, it is wonderfully unique in its usefulness to anyone interested in fast-tracking both teaching and learning. Of anything. Anywhere.

Yes I’m biased – I’m part of Kate’s education team and have been privy to the development of this book.

Yes it’s exciting – this book’s potential to impact the education world is mind blowing.

Yes this is short – straight to the point so you can check out the link for yourself.

Hard back copy is a limited edition – click here for more

Learning to Flow

With GCSE and A Level revision being a key theme at this time of year, it’s sometimes useful to shift attention away from the cramming of ‘knowledge’ and take a peek at the PROCESSES that enable learning to FLOW.

 

Several educational and Accelerated Learning models propose something like a wheel that explains the flow of attention during learning.

 

My adaptation looks a little like a wheel of 4 segments that cycles incoming information from short-term attention to long-term storage, and then retrieval.

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