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Thinking

Too many thoughts or too little attention?

It is said that we think an average of 70,000 thoughts a day, and most of them are simply habitual. 

Thoughts are the electro-chemical brain signals that make your brain:

* efficient – you don’t have to think about thinking.

* effective – you can select the most useful thoughts available to support your next move. 

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Troubling Thoughts

Most people know what it’s like to feel afraid of pop up (intrusive) thoughts or even nightmares.


Glorious technicolour and surround sound mind-menacing tricks can loop inside our minds for what seems like an eternity. And because brains can’t distinguish between imagination and sensory based reality, we can easily react with survival-based brain chemistry. 

Time for Brain Buddies!

Brain Buddies help kids (and parents) edit their mind movies on purpose and change the feelings from troubling to tremendous.  

Find out more about your Happy Brain training opportunities to help children and teens build resilience through play and creativity. 

Next 2-day training course June 8-9 in Newcastle £295 includes certificate of attendance from Society of NLP as your introduction to or specialist application of NLP for working with children and teens. More dates announced soon.

Contact: HERE for more info and please share with those who may be interested.

Online blended learning programme launching this summer. 

What is Bullying?

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I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition.

The mum removed said post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying.

 

What happens inside your mind when you hear the word ‘bullied’. What assumptions do you make and what is your default emotional reaction?

 

I think the word ‘bully’ is a powerful metaphor Read more…

What Can’t You Do?

How do you expand your child’s capacity for a ‘can do’ attitude?

Why is this important? Because when your child or teen says “I can’t…(eat that/do that/learn that)” it prevents them exploring what they can do.

Hearing someone declare a limitation ahead of real time capability-testing can be frustrating because it’s a sloppy recall of a failure-memory rather than imagineering-success. If you believe their ‘can’t’ you accept their limitation. Yet trying to persuade them that they ‘can’ do it (they ARE capable after all) so often engages a battle that sends them into the justification corner.

Helping children and young people experience more in life, not less, means they get to expand their mental map of what they can do with their brain.

This example from our Happy Brain programme, coaches a 10 year old child through an experience of high value to them. Gaming is the child’s value.  We’ll call the child Joseph.

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More Simple Motivation

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

When you feel you have choice you are more likely to feel motivated.

Let’s look at what happens when you focus on long-term goals and feeling good when planning (e.g. being a strong, healthy sportsperson, or having many study choices at university) keeps your motivation steady, which enables you to take feedback from the past performances to feed forward and make adjustments for the next time. We call this continual improvement.

 

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NLP First Aid

As first ‘mum’ into the emergency room following a car crash involving my son and his two mates, I was fortunately able to quickly know that (despite blood and bruising) my son was going to be OK. However it was also apparent that one of the other boys (Chris) was in quite a bad way.
 

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Melissa’s Magic Mirrors

  • Do you ever feel under pressure from the outside world?
  • Do you feel anxious around specific people, or in a particular place?
  • Would you like to feel more resilient and confident?

 

MIND & PLANT MAGIC!

Many people find Melissa’s Magic Mirrors a great way to deal with bullies. You teach yourself how to feel stronger and more resilient when people around you appear threatening.

This exercise is designed for children and adults and can be adapted to suit the individual – so do bespoke it!

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Marketing Unconsciously

Have you ever been shopping and found your eyes fixating on bargain signs? Those uniformly simple and brightly coloured images that trick us into thinking we can save money. Over time, how many things have you bought on impulse?

 

Not everyone succumbs to that automated behavioural response of course, but if you owned a retail store you’d be very keen to understand consumer behaviours wouldn’t you?

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