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Bullies, Bullied, Bullying

What is Bullying?

I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition. 

The mum removed the post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying

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Troubling Thoughts

Most people know what it’s like to feel afraid of pop up (intrusive) thoughts or even nightmares.


Glorious technicolour and surround sound mind-menacing tricks can loop inside our minds for what seems like an eternity. And because brains can’t distinguish between imagination and sensory based reality, we can easily react with survival-based brain chemistry. 

Time for Brain Buddies!

Brain Buddies help kids (and parents) edit their mind movies on purpose and change the feelings from troubling to tremendous.  

Find out more about your Happy Brain training opportunities to help children and teens build resilience through play and creativity. 

Next 2-day training course June 8-9 in Newcastle £295 includes certificate of attendance from Society of NLP as your introduction to or specialist application of NLP for working with children and teens. More dates announced soon.

Contact: HERE for more info and please share with those who may be interested.

Online blended learning programme launching this summer. 

What is Bullying?

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I work with bullies and bullied.

Take a recent example of a teenager who was being publically humiliated on social media after posting a live singing performance at a local talent competition.

The mum removed said post from social media citing ‘thumbs down and online judgements/jibes’ as evidence of bullying.

 

What happens inside your mind when you hear the word ‘bullied’. What assumptions do you make and what is your default emotional reaction?

 

I think the word ‘bully’ is a powerful metaphor Read more…

Percy Manages Metaphor

Percy explained that he had been getting angry with people at work.

As manager of a team, he needed his people to follow instruction and deliver results. The trigger to his getting angry was people not doing what he had asked of them which led to increasing frustration, which then led to anger. Underpinning his anger was something of high value to him – feeling understood.

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Lonely Lana Changes Her Mind

Good quality thinking generates good feelings which bring choices in what you do.

14 year old Lana was fed up of feeling left out of a group of girls at her new school.

Moving schools can be tough at any age and Lana, one term in, was yearning for the feelings she used to associate with her old group of pals.

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Melissa’s Magic Mirrors

  • Do you ever feel under pressure from the outside world?
  • Do you feel anxious around specific people, or in a particular place?
  • Would you like to feel more resilient and confident?

 

MIND & PLANT MAGIC!

Many people find Melissa’s Magic Mirrors a great way to deal with bullies. You teach yourself how to feel stronger and more resilient when people around you appear threatening.

This exercise is designed for children and adults and can be adapted to suit the individual – so do bespoke it!

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Undo Thinking Traps

Thinking Traps – perceptions that make us unhappy

 

We each perceive the world differently and our perception can cause unnecessary stress. Changing our perceptions is a great tool for strengthening personal resilience.

 

  • Make a list of 3 things that when you see them you feel sad or angry.
  • Make a list of 3 things that when you hear them you feel sad or angry.
  • To each sentence, now describe ‘what you think it means’

 

E.G. I see her frown/hear him whisper and I feel sad because I think it means s/he doesn’t like me any more.

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